Lindsay Teague Moreno

mompreneuer

The Cure for the Summer Mom Blues

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We are days away from summer break up in here. Today I’ve got a pep talk for the mamas because I need one myself.

Ready for some truth? Sometimes summer break makes me want to cry. I love my work and I love my break from the kiddos. There. I said it.

I love my kids. I love my space. I have a lot to do. Kids do not enjoy my work like I do. They also enjoy making the most annoying sounds ever invented which is not conducive to my love of quiet time.

I’m going to tell you my secret to experiencing more joy in the summer months with my kids constantly around me and having less time to dedicate to work.

Ready?

Count how many you have left.

Kids are on a timer. The day they’re born that timer starts and it ticks for around 18 years. About 5 days into motherhood I started to feel like the timer was too long. I can’t do this. It’s too hard. I need sleep and a real meal.

As soon as my kids hit 5-years-old I had a renewal in my love for being a mom. Things became a bit easier. They could put their own clothes on and buckle their car seat. Praise the Lord.

I still struggle though, you guys. I’m not the doting mom that’s always there to wipe tears and keeps band-aids in her purse. Not by a long shot. You’d find a bottle of wine before bandaids, I promise you.

So I count how many I have left of everything. Count the summers. Count the holidays. It shows us how few we get to be a part of. It puts a timeline on the things we are taking for granted.

When I realize I only have 8 summers left with my kids all at home (and maybe less that they want to be with me and not friends), it sure puts that time into perspective. Now I’m ready to be summer mom.

Make a summer bucket list with your kids. It can cost zero dollars. Kids don’t care. They want your attention.

Go do the things they want to do because your summer breaks aren’t infinite (even when it feels like it will never EVER end, nomsayin’).

Count how many are left and then make this one count.

XO,

How To Overcome Self-Doubt As A Momtrepreneur

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Self-doubt. I don’t know a woman out there who hasn’t dealt with it.

And it’s a terrible feeling, amirite?

Unfortunately, it’s one that pops up a lot for female business owners. It’s so easy to let it creep in.

I’ve got this innate desire for people to like me so, if I’m not careful, self-doubt can stop me in my tracks.

Am I working hard enough?

Is this even valuable to anyone?

What if I post this and everyone hates it?

Self-doubt can be totally paralyzing when you aren’t sure how to deal with it.

Let’s talk about some ways to overcome it:

  1. Feelings. You’ve got to feel them. I know, I know. I’m rolling my eyes at myself right now because feelings are just a no for me. But to get past this stuff you need to sit down and be honest about what you’re feeling. Ask yourself why you’re feeling this way and what is the absolute worst that happens if you’re right? Usually you will find it sounds silly and the worst is really nothing.
  2. Get to work. After you’ve taken some time with your feelings the next step is to go back to work. Put your head down and start taking small steps toward your goal. You’d be surprised how much a small sense of accomplishment makes you forget your doubts.
  3. Quit comparing yourself to her. And her. And her. I’m serious. This is the worst thing you can do to feed your self-doubt. Who cares if she is doing more, better, faster? That is not your story and it doesn’t change your journey. The hard truth is that the longer you waste watching her and comparing, the less time you have to crush your own goal. So. Stop.
  4. Talk about it. Call a friend, text a trusted business partner, sit down with your spouse. Tell them out loud what your fears are and let them giggle a little at you because it’s sounds ridiculous! After they are done giggling take any advice or support they can give.
  5. Just move forward anyway. This is a tough one, but it will make a huge difference. Get your mind off self-doubt any way you can and move forward with your work and life. Leaving those negative feelings behind will take a huge weight off your shoulders!

Listen, none of us are immune to self-doubt.

I don’t care how much success you’ve seen or how on-fire your business is right now.

It’s not easy to be vulnerable and admit we have these feelings, but it helps us all when we do.

I hope these words help you today and in the future to get rid of the self-doubt and go out and get after your dreams!

XO,